CHAPTER 45: Unresolved Conflict, the 5C’s & Four Principles 2026
Unresolved conflict simply means you can’t resolve it when you want to resolve it. Maybe it’s in process, maybe a solution will present itself, maybe it won’t. Unresolved and that’s it. This chapter helped me chart my way through Unresolved Conflict, and most importantly it taught me ways to avoid it. It is a workbook chapter and those who listen to it repeatedly are better for it. Listening to me today is an invitation to do so, because trying to remember a workbook chapter with numerous points is impossible, so listen today and then go back and begin listening to the chapter again. Study heartily and avoid or navigate out of Unresolved Conflict.
revelation2221.com is up on the web for you, so that no matter what time of the day or night, you are not alone, there is fellowship in your walk with Christ and the business He’s given to you. One thing is for sure, It is maddening. Without God’s direction, or the purpose of God, not only maddening but enormous. Let it go? Impossible. Get on with other things? Temporarily, maybe, but not for long. Examples? You can’t resolve the war on Iran, the price of gasoline, the condition of sickness in loved one. Is that what I’m talking about? No. Business in trouble, no choice, no option, unresolved, must move forward, must solve the problem or the business will suffer or fail. Well, I’ve heard, “all things work out in time.” Maybe they will, doesn’t mean a company will survive without severe guidance, respect, and order. Unresolved Conflict does not hand out second chances. Solutions take time, maybe a short time, maybe longer, whatever the case, failing in this matter is disastrous. For those of understand what I’m saying, know this. Whatever is unresolved at this time, don’t make more. More mistakes or more unresolved conflict is always possible and definitely insane. First stop, how to quit making unresolved problems.
Before I get into it, and explain the 5C’s and the 4 principles, let’s begin in bible verse. These are scripture I use for myself in this chapter and realized at a very early age the importance of planning and the Lord’s help in doing better.
1 Corinthians 14:40 But all things should be done decently and in order.
Colossians 3:23 Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men,
James 4:17 So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.
James 4:3 and verse 10 You ask and do not receive, because you ask wrongly, to spend it on your passions.
(Verse 10 goes on to say)
Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will exalt you.
Let’s begin. The 5C’s the 4 Principles. We begin with the 5C’s. Content, Continuity, Contact, Conditions and Closing. These items are to be used to plan a project and avoid Unresolved Conflict, or when necessary navigate out of it.
#1) Content – (design phase) Flush out a complete idea, beginning to end. Hard to do when you’re in a hurry in a competitive bid situation. Correct bid, not low or high, correct.
#2) Continuity – (the timeline) Times and dates of each portion to be completed and how they fit together. Who, what, where, when and why. Hard to do when you’re trying to beat the next guy out of the job, or it’s just easier to leave it to Bob, the manager. Not good.
#3) Contact – (the people) Have frequent hourly communication with all contractors, employees, sub-contractors, advertisers, book keeping and accounting. Hard to do when you’re hunting for multiple bids, trying to fill the pipeline. Best to slow down and take care, more is not better, better is better.
#4) Conditions – (the money schedule) Upfront have the details and agreed upon payment schedules, change orders pay agreements up-front, man hours, overtime, finish dates, margin and language in the event of unforeseen problems or disagreements. Check daily, repeat. You are not a bank, quit acting like it. The bank charges you 20% interest minimum, and your customers expect you to carry the account for free. You don’t have a bank, your not a bank, and you’re in trouble because you let people pay when they feel like it.
#5) Closing – (collection and sign-off) Get the money. This is your company, take care of it. It’s a lot easier when #4, the contract is in order. If you did #4 incorrectly, #5, closing and collecting the money is going to be a failure. You are responsible and that will lead to an unresolvable collection. When you don’t collect, you breach the fiduciary duty given to you and become unable to provide for your family.
The 5c’s:
Content
Continuity
Contact
Conditions
Closing
A person cannot fulfill the 5C’s without a reality check on behavior nearly every moment of every day. To power up the 5C’s and combat Unresolved Conflict, I gotta know how to act. There are four principles.
Principle #1 “Family First, Business First.” They are the same. If the business is a mess, the family is a mess, if the family is a mess, the business is a mess. When I realize this is happening, it’s my fault and it is absolutely up to me to either resolve it or not make it worse.
Principle #2 “Always Supportive, Slightly Detached and always, always equal.” Principle #2 is about maintaining good perspective.
“Always supportive” — good solutions always, don’t rely on others for difficult solutions, find your way through it and teach
“Slightly detached” — don’t get emotional, get the job done
“Always, always equal” — not above or below anyone, equal
Remember, like your children, employees are not your friend, they are your responsibility. The job is to carefully direct.
Principle #3 “The Truth to the right Person at precisely the right time..” Give the correct person, the truth, at the perfect time. The key here is you gotta know all three. Person, truth, time. Without the 5C’s how could you do that? Well, it’s virtually impossible to know the person to address, truth that needs to be handled or the time and place for direction and correction.
Principle #4 “Never expect the company to do for you what you cannot do for yourself..” What’s that mean? Don’t spend company money incorrectly or for stupid reasons.
The 5C’s will give you footing, the 4 Principles will help clarify the position of authority that has been given to a company owner.
Does it take away Unresolved Conflict? Definitely. And at the very least it minimizes or allows me to navigate out of it, when I find myself trapped by it.
Saint Augustine Is quoted as saying: “Do you wish to be great? Then begin by being. Do you desire to construct a vast and lofty fabric? Think first about the foundations of humility. The higher your structure is to be, the deeper must be its foundation.”
Luke 14:28 For which one of you, when he wants to build a tower, does not first sit down and calculate the cost to see if he has enough to complete it?
Many just are not teachable and the result is a “stacking up” of Unresolved Conflicts to the point of utter disaster. Learn or “fight for my right to stay stupid,” my choice.
Eph 4:24 to put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.
The world is quickly becoming one giant ball of unresolved conflict, all of it, democrats, republicans, socialists, communists, capitalist, fascist, catholics, christians, lutherans, pagans, Jews, Hollywood, brother, sister, daughter, son, mother, father, wife, husband.., it’s an epidemic. Much of this stuff, there’s nothing I can do. However, a balance sheet might be filled with Unresolved Conflict and that I can do something about.
Unwind what you can and leave the rest for God. Know what is yours and what is God’s. Can’t sit on the couch while God tends to the office, nope, not a good plan.
Without the 5C’s and the 4 Principals, there is available, disgruntled, angry, purposeless and suffering, waiting for all of us. Maybe listening to this chapter over and over again, one may find solutions around or through Unresolved Conflict before true consequences prevail.
Romans 13:14: “The night is far gone; the day is at hand. So then let us cast off the works of darkness and put on the armor of light.”
The 5c’s:
- Content
- Continuity
- Contact
- Conditions
- Closing
4 Principles:
- Family First Business First,
- Always supportive, slightly detached always equal,
- Truth to the Right Person and Precisely the Right Time,
- Never Expect the Company to Do For You What You Can’t Do For Yourself.
In closing, real life example. What kind of project would Chapter 45 help?
We will call this “example project.”
- How much is the contract for
- How much have you been given up front
- How much is left to do and bill, including change orders
- How much will it cost to finish the job, more or less than the contract?
You see without prior planning, you’ll incorrectly bid the job, spend front loaded money on prior losses, fail to negotiate a payment schedule on existing change orders and miscalculate how much it costs to finish the job. i.e., Unresolved Conflict. Let’s remember the scriptures that I used at the beginning.
1 Corinthians 14:40 But all things should be done decently and in order.
Colossians 3:23 Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men,
James 4:17 So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.
James 4:3 and verse 10 You ask and do not receive, because you ask wrongly, to spend it on your passions.
(Verse 10 goes on to say)
Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will exalt you.
I think it was Clint Eastwood, in one of his movies, I think it was Magnum Force. He said, as the character of Inspector Callahan, “A good man always knows his limitations.” Chapter 45, Unresolved Conflict, know the limitations of your responsibility and act accordingly with what God has given you. Revelation2221.com, this lesson will be up on the internet in a little while, be an overachiever, do better than your best, listen to it until you like it, and if you like it, be grateful for it and use it until it likes you.
Titus 2:1 But as for you, speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine:
Chapter 45: Unresolved Conflict, the 5C’s and the 4 Principles 2026
